Date: September 7, 2018
In preparation for my upcoming nuptials, my bride-to-be asked me to write our love story. Now, I don't know if you've ever had to write a love story, but it's pretty damn tough. Part of what made it so difficult for me was trying to capture the highs, having to relive the lows, all while trying to ensure that I was respectful and honest about the pain I've caused her and the additional love, I hopefully brought her, and trying to make it all make sense for you.
With that said, please sit back and enjoy a bit of me, a bit of her, and a fair amount of us.
When Eb initially asked me to write something about our love story, I really didn't know what to write. Not because there's a lack of love, but because there's so much of it. It's been about 7 years now since E-Harmony (queue Natalie Cole's "This Will Be") brought Satish (nickname #47) and I together and in so many ways it feels like it was just yesterday and in so many others like it's been over 20. I'd like to believe that our road to marriage has been pretty smooth with the occasional potholes, some larger than others, making our trip a bit less than ideal, but not enough to derail us beyond repair. If someone were to ask me what makes our story so special, I'd probably answer by saying that we really get each other, in that eerie "I heard God speak to me" kinda way. L.A.W. (nickname #1 - don't ask) and I have been at this thing for a minute and a half and we've only gotten better and better, sure we fuss and fight and have moments when we'd rather not deal with the other's issues and yet we are so thoughtful, careful, and honest with each other that it makes even the toughest moments feel less tough and the great moments feel supercalafragalisticexpialadocious. That's how I'd describe our love and our journey, supercalafragalisticexpialadociousa, that perfect mix of Hallmark, Daria, Grey's Anatomy, Hart of Dixie, Star Wars, and Love Actually.
What's most touching about our journey has been the progression, I mean Eb would once admonish me for making the candy section at The Fresh Market my personal sampling area. And now she barely says a word and even eats some of my bounty. Talk about love, she allows me to tickle her a few times a week, doesn't even get as annoyed about me complimenting her, asking her where she got "that amazing necklace," - yeah the ones I bought - and she's come to not even mind me not wanting to spend more than a few hours in a house without the Tennis Channel. Love is all about progression and I've been fortunate enough to experience it first hand. One of her best qualities has to be taking personal responsibility and one of mine has to be putting my mask on first and what's been so amazing to see is how we've been able to take bits and pieces of our best and infuse them into each other, ultimately adding so many more layers and depth to this really cool thing of ours.
Since getting engaged so many people have asked what made her the one and my answer, like me, is quite complex and quite simple all at the same time: there are a ton of people in this world that I/we can do the good with, but I don't know that I've ever met someone that I can do the bad with and it not feel so bad and quite honestly just feel like a stepping stone to something even better.
I say all that to say, getting her took some time, but I wouldn't change a thing, scratch that, maybe a few things, but it was all worth it in the end. If you're wondering what exactly getting here looked like, well, I might have to charge you for such privileged information, but because LOVE - long emails, loads of texts, endless conversations, checking our egos, therapy, fun, self reflection, self discovery, honesty, tears, date nights, music, tickling, great sex, therapy, therapy, therapy, and the willingness and desire to choose each other over and over and over again.